Labor rumors and drama

Here is something else that makes lives of many pregnant women even harder. The rumors of how labor is going to be like are just too much. Every person seem to know something about labor, especially the pain part.

I grew up hearing the bad stories about labor. I’m sure many of us heard the stories and made us get so scared to even consider having babies. This was long before we knew that people can opt to push or go for operation. All in all I truly think mothers were trying to explain how deep mother’s love is to her children. I guess it was a figure of speech of a sort.

I’m not saying labor pain isn’t really, but I want to comfort those who are getting there, the future mothers, that we hear a lot of scary stories and not all of them are true. I personally made sure I familiarize myself with the day itself (delivery date). I watched a lot of clips on youtube on labor pain and delivery. I needed to see and get the ideas of the worse scenarios and if there is anything I could do to take my worries away.

I thank GOD that I made up my mind long time ago that I will go natural if all go well, and thank GOD all went well and my doctor said I could deliver naturally. I kinda wanted to experience the pain that every mother on the street is bragging about. We say ‘uchungu wa mwana aujua mzazi’, well, the saying is perfect only that for me I think it implies something else and not the labor pain alone. 

We, future mothers should remember that we are different, so labor pain is experienced differently, there is no common pain. I heard people uswahilini saying that to some people the water breaks through the mouth and so they vomit, GOD, I’m yet to research on that but you guys can help me if that is what it means when a woman in labor pain vomits.

Of course there are basic signs of labor, though when I started my labor pain I just went to cross check with the nurses at the hospital. I was driving near the hospital and I thought there was no harm just walking in and chat with the nurses about the pain that I felt. Honestly I was so calm during my labor and I never forgot to smile when I had a minute to do so. When I asked if what I felt was labor they said I must be joking cause no pregnant woman in labor smiles the way I did. They told me that i had a week or so, for the baby to come and I said well, ok, maybe they are right but I knew what to look for to know that was the  right time. Apart from the pain and the intervals between one pain and the other I knew at some point I will have to see the discharge.

After the hospital trip, of which I was told it was a false labor I took my usual evening walk and when I went back home I saw the big sign. I told my sister in law cause she is stronger than my sister who was also there . So they checked my bag which I had packed two months earlier  and every time a friend or relative visits me at home and want to know what I have packed for the hospital, they remove this one and add another, then someone else comes and removes this and add another. This is another confusion you can get when you involve so many people and you don’t know what you should do. It is very important to be prepared and to have all the necessary information from your hospital and your doctor.

So they packed for the sixth time I suppose, and we all went to bed. Now that night was a hell of a night, the pain continued and the interval became shorter and shorter but never told anyone because I felt like the ten minutes interval was still a lot of time, so I waited for the morning to come. What I learn from my 9 months of reading pregnancy issues was BREATHING, I made sure I mastered that before I went pushing, all I did that night was breathing and relaxing my body. I read that when you are tense the pain gets stronger.

The morning came and I started praising and worshiping, yeah I was staying close to the hospital if you are wondering what the hell was I doing at home all that time? I left home at 10.30am and when I reached the hospital the the nurses that i talked to the previous night asked me  ‘You are back madam pinic ? they told me i took labor as a picnic, cause i was so excited . 'Look at your tummy, it is still up’. they said .I  told them lets go get this baby out, I’m ready, without forgetting to smile. Around 1.30pm my angel arrived.