NewMamaz: Welcome to the World little Angel……

NewMamaz: Welcome to the World little Angel……: My Angel, The Day her life on this earth and mine began. I saved all my energy for her (if you kn...

Welcome to the World little Angel……

My Angel, The Day her life on this earth and mine began.

I saved all my energy for her (if you know what I mean)..I know, I have been told and I have even seen in the movies that when babies come out they cry like they are hurt or something. Ooooooh Lord, it didn’t not happen to my angel until five minutes later, those minutes were the most painful, most long waiting I have ever experienced in my entire life. I would take the labour pain and the nine months all over again not to go through those minutes, THEN, only THEN I knew what it means to be given a gift by GOD which is literally a PART of your own flesh.

Ah! Let's not talk about this, cause there those who have been through worse experience than this. Let’s just make it short and say GOD sent angels too help and finally my baby cried.

What Next…………….

One week old, my new hobby is to watch her in her sleep

I have always been so afraid of tiny babies, I mean newborns, Now, here is my own and I’m suppose to hold and protect her. I don’t remember any nurse directing me how to breastfeed my baby and I think I did not for hours and I know that was wrong. Thinking about it now, this could be the reason why I could not get milk for two or three days.

The baby was given to me and I was there staring at this little angel, couldn’t move it, didn’t even know I was suppose to check if she has poo pooed, by the time I was reminded to check the poo was all over her and I could not clean her (I’m SCARED ) I will hurt her doh!. Thanks to GOD the nurse helped but of course with some lecture.

Two nights went by without me closing a single eye, just staring. Went home with a hungry baby, crying like I don’t know what, and she caught fever. I remember there was a moment that I cried out so loud that my sister whom I went to stay with in the first week also started crying. She was so worried about me and I was so worried about my baby.

All of a suddenly I felt like no no no! I did not sign for this, the baby is ill, can’t stop crying, don’t have milk to feed her……………………and since I had not slept for two nights my body was exhausted, I wanted to run away. My mother was around, a few cousins and my sister but with all that help at the end of the day when the baby cant stop crying they all take her back to the mother. Even if they decide to keep trying, a mother cannot rest hearing a baby in pain.

Many mothers if not all go through this Postpartum depression and this is the time where mother needs a professional help that I don’t think many of us get. Our supporting system is not very clear. This is why we need to talk about these things so that a mother does not feel guilty about the way she feels. You may think that you do not deserve to be a mother or you are the worst mother, Nooooo you are not darling, it is a big change and your hormones change and everything around you changes at once, it is too much to bear.

Partners who get a chance to be there for their women should also be prepared for the changes so that they can be a little more supportive. I’m talking to MEN right now………….. the hustles we put you through for nine months and the pain we got through during labour is nothing compared to the abruptly change  a mother go through, well, I don’t know about others but as for me I wouldn’t have done it if it wasn’t for GOD.

Thanks also to the social help because nowadays people share their common experience online. Opening up to your friends and mothers who go through the same things help new mothers to get along with the changes. This is why we are here, to share and to open up before things get worse. Social support helps a lot, we have groups on facebook and all over other networks for mothers to share their worries and fears, let’s involve ourselves with the rest of newmamaz around the world.